12 STEPS to move on after a BREAKUP
I’ve been through a lot of break-ups over the past years. If I can recall, my first boyfriend was in 2012 (I know. So young. So naive).
I’ve experienced these breakups to help me heal and think about why it ended after all the days, weeks, months or even years creating happy & romantic memories with the significant person. I’ve learned from these mistakes.
On a positive note, without them, I wouldn’t be writing out this list. It has made me a stronger & more independent person.
(Thanks, to all my exes out there!
Letting out my inner Taylor Swift ~)
So let’s get start it!
1. Cry your heart out
Yes. Cry every single water out of your system until it dries out. It’s not okay to bottle your emotions in and to think that you’re fine.
You’re not fine. [Insert Katy Perry meme here]
Let out your anger, grief & sadness out. Have a close friend by your side, comforting you as you make puddles on the floor. Write a journal expressing your feelings inside. Anything to let your mind travel out.
2. Binge watch movies and eat junk food for the whole day
Just for one day or two, eat anything you want. Chocolate, ice cream, cake etc.
Just make sure to eat healthy after the one or two days are over.
Watching romance movies aren’t going to help. Watch other genres such as
comedy, action, thriller or even horror to get your mind off things related to “love”.
You really don’t need to be thinking of it at this moment in time.
3. Delete photos with your ex on it
Don’t you dare stare at it and think for 5 minutes if you should delete it or not.
DELETE EVERYTHING! And I do mean every single picture that you took with him/her.
Even the pictures that relate to them.
It will be worth it in the end I swear!
4. Trashing or storing the items related to your ex
Throw away the gifts that he/she got you. The items that made you two an item. Anything that relates to them just THROW.THEM.AWAY! Send your mutual friend to give your ex’s stuff back. If your break up was in good terms, just return the gifts, clothes they gave you or just store them in a box and tuck it away. You might look back and cherish (or laugh) at that time.
5. Delete those media that remind you of him/her
From music to video clips, just a single tap/click on the delete button and you’re already getting far ahead of moving on. Even if it was a good song, don’t be fooled. There is other good music out there.
Just don’t listen to sad songs for now.
6. Remove & block them from any social media
This is common after a break-up. Don’t even think about trying to stalk their social media. If you don’t want to block them, just remove them. There are other ways like taking a break from social media(like I am right now taking a break from FB) if you think you two wish to be friends. Even if you still want to be friends with them, I suggest trying to stay away from them for a long period of time and then when you feel like the feelings are gone, you can then text him/her back.
7. Start a new hobby
Getting a new hobby is a great way to get your mind off of your ex. You get to feel free and do whatever you wanted to do that you couldn’t do when you were in a relationship.
Like, skydiving, hiking, drawing, traveling, playing a new sport etc.
8. Go out and make new friends or reunite with old ones
Don’t be an anti-social (like me). Go out and socialize more! It is always great to meet new people and hang out with the people you haven’t seen in like FOREVER!
After a long day of talking and chilling with them, you feel happier.
9. Take a break and go for a travel
Don’t overwork yourself! Take a long vacation and go traveling.
Explore new things, take photographs and experience the real world. Distract yourself for a while. Travelling is a treat to yourself.
10. Hang out at parties, concerts or events with your mates or by yourself
There’s nothing like having fun. You’re single now. Enjoy the life you have.
11. Flirt around with new people (but don’t do rebounds!)
You can flirt with new guys/girls but don’t ever go in a rebound until you’re ready to move on and forget your last. There’s nothing like hurt between two people only to find out that you still have feelings for your ex.
12. And lastly, focus on your goals & dreams!
Remember the time you were in a relationship and you couldn’t do the things YOU wanted to do?
That’s right. Now that you’re single, you’re free to do whatever your heart desires.
No person is going to hold you back. You can complete your goals and feel very accomplished & successful that you broke it off with them. That’s the good thing about breaking up right? Just remember that!
I hope these steps/tips are helpful for you guys getting over someone.
I want you guys to be happy and enjoy life.
You don’t need a significant other to relay on.
All you need is to be yourself, single and carefree~
Have a great day guys!
Hi! I’m Ellen and I’m a student who blogs about lifestyle, self-wellbeing, productivity & relationship advice to make your life as simple and stress-free. I love art and playing video games. I have a pet duck (yes, I did do a post on that) and I’m currently studying Graphic Design since I have an interest in designs.