Personally, being in an LDR (long distance relationship) has its ups and downs (like having to keep in touch with your significant other or not being able to be physically there for each). Even though people think you’re alone, it doesn’t mean you’re not.
I’ve been in an LDR with my boyfriend for 7 months now (by the time I’m writing this) but we’re still standing strong as ever because we know that we have goals to reach that include each other.
So if you’re in a long distance relationship, then here are 10 tips to keep your LDR together.
So grab your mug of coffee or tea and let’s get right into it!
1. Communicate often but not always
I know that some people say that communicating 247 every day would make their relationship stronger. Maybe that’s just them but for me, I would have my alone times than spend every hour with my boyfriend.
Why? Because sometimes, relationships can get boring and irritating when you have nothing to say or discuss with each other or you might even get too attached to each other! (Not a good thing at all).
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2. Let your significant other know what you’re doing
Letting your partner know if you’re going out with friends or going to a club is a good thing because then you’ll be able to keep in touch with one another and know what’s going on in their daily life.
Don’t forget to let your partner know what you’re up to! (except go to the bathroom).
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3. Be hopeful and positive
People who have been in a relationship for a long time would know that it’s tough having an LDR especially with the lack of physical interactions.
But don’t worry, always be hopeful and positive because someday, who knows if you’ll either be able to get married and living with them.
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4. Have some space sometimes
Same with the first tip, it can get really irritating, boring or “attachy” if you spend time communicating with your partner 247 along with distractions!
Having space can be beneficial to both of you.
- You’ll get your work done
- You’ll get this feeling where you miss them and have more things to talk about.
5. Try things together
Who says LDR can be limited? (Miley says. Jokes.)
But seriously, you get to still do things with each other like watch videos while voice calling or texting (that’s what my bf and I do), a duo with each other on video games or video call and cook together.
What is your favourite thing to do together if you’re in an LDR?
6. Talk to each other about your goals in the future
My boyfriend and I love talking about the future. For example, my boyfriend and I are planning to split the bills, have two dogs etc (but I won’t go further on talking about our future goals because that would take forever).
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7. Be honest
Being honest is the top number 1 thing that will keep ANY relationship together. If things turn from honesty to dishonesty, things will get a lot messier in the long run.
8. Be open
People may think that keeping their problems it would cause no problem but it doesn’t.
Be open to your partner in any relationship so you’ll feel relieved to let it out to someone who’s special and also, your partner will gain more trust in you.
9. Have a deep conversation
Ever stayed up all night talking to your bf/gf having these deep conversations and never wanting it to end? I have. It made my bf and me closer together.
These deep conversations have an impact on our bond. It sure makes you lose track of time and have that feeling on how you fell in love with them in the first place.
10. Take into account that visiting them in real life is a special moment
One thing that is great about this is that you’ll get this really happy, nervous and bubbly feeling inside when you haven’t seen someone for a very long time. So make sure you cherish those moments.
11. Set some rules within your relationship
I know, it might sound crazy but it works well. I know this because there are some things I and my boyfriend don’t like and it gets frustrating when the other does something that they don’t like.
For example, I hate loud music but my boyfriend does. I get really irritated when he puts on loud music on stereo whenever we voice call.
That’s why it’s best to set some rules first so that both of you know in case it happens.
12. Act lovely dovey with each other
I mean, the point of being in a relationship is to love each other right? LDR ain’t really different than seeing each other in real life. Act like you’re in love with each other.
Send cute texts to each other, blow kisses over phone or video call. Anything that will keep your love deep is a good way to keep your relationship tight.
13. Visit them if you can
Even though you guys may be far away, it does not mean both of you will stick in an LDR forever. During the holidays or when both of you are free and financially stable, make a date to visit each other in person.
14. Send a personal gift to each other
Sending a personal gift to each other is a good way to think of one another when they’re not around.
My boyfriend sent me a big box for valentine’s day with a teddy bear and some candy to remember him by. He also sent me coffee packets which I love (because I love coffee so much!). I also sent him a gift which is a T-shirt with his favourite game on it.
15. Make time in your schedule
Lastly, make sure to schedule your time to call or video each other. An LDR won’t work if you guys are making your communication more distance than you already are. Look through your planner and see if you can find a free day to spend time with your lover.
Have these tips helped you with your LDR? Or if you have any personal experience in being an LDR through good or bad times?
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