Sometimes, I don’t even realise I’ve been away for so long because of how busy and stressed out I am about my end of year exams (plus we got to memorize quotes etc by hearts because we can’t bring in anything but stationeries!) I’m writing here because it’s a two week spring holiday here in Australia. Meaning, I get time to write and schedule more post to upload on my blog.
If you’re a vulnerable human being and hate having to discuss topics that include death, suicide, or other sensitive topics, then I suggest you close this tab or read my other blog posts that are “blogger friendly”.
Now, let’s be serious here. A few weeks ago, I’ve heard about Mac Miller’s death (if you don’t know he’s a singer, rapper, producer and most notably dated Ariana Grande in the past). Ok, I may have been days late on the news but that’s only because I’ve isolated myself in a shell and never pay attention to the news.
It’s sad to me how the most famous people and the everyday casual person like you and me show an “I’m good” “I’m fine” impression in public when really, we’re not. (Oh, how I still yearn for you, Kim Jonghyun TT_TT)
This is a serious topic I wanted to talk about. From what I suspect from these famous peoples’ deaths and how I really think it affects myself and anyone else for that matter in this current society.
Let’s grab a mug of coffee or tea, and be serious from on here.
Let’s talk about Kim Jonghyun. He was a South Korean songwriter, singer, record producer, radio host and author under the most popular 3 Kpop labels, SM Entertainment. He was the main vocalist of the boy band SHINee for 9 years (until his death). How did he pass away? By suicide to carbon monoxide poisoning.
Now, here’s the problem, there were plenty of warnings about his depression. Clearly, the suicide note sent to his friend Nine9 before his death does explain part of it and indicated his depression and struggles with fame. Yes, fame. You can read the translated letter here (You’ll probably feel very devasted.)
Another is his song ‘Lonely’ which, if you listen or read the lyrics closely, you can see that he put all his emotions into this one song.
Along with his last live stream to his fans, saying “goodbye”
and a few from his “Blue Night Radio” broadcast and other links that possibly connect his mental state;
Now let’s talk about the recent death of Malcolm James McCormick aka rapper Mac Miller. He was an American rapper, singer and record producer under the record label Rostrum Records in 2010. How did he pass away? Drug overdose.
There were some signs but I’m clearly not sure if it was his intention to take his life or that the drugs did end up causing him to overdose. I’m just stating the obvious from what I think and from the research I’ve gathered up.
His music video ‘Self Care’ with the cigarette and the coffin.
In a few articles, it says ‘he did struggle against depression and substance abuse for years’, “Miller told Complex in 2013 that the pressure of a 2012 tour and his debut record getting panned by critics saw him begin using ‘lean’ — a mix of codeine and promethazine — to self-medicate his depression.”
“I was not happy and I was on lean very heavy,” he says. “I was so f**ked up all the time it was bad. My friends couldn’t even look at me the same. I was lost.”
There were also widespread accusations that Ariana Grande was at fault for his death, after their breakup in May 2018 (2 years of dating) leading to her engagement to comedian Pete Davidson a month later.
“A week after their breakup, Miller was arrested for allegedly crashing his car while drunk and then fleeing the scene.”
And lastly, the struggles being in the spotlight/fame, “There’s pressure. A lot of times in my life I’ve put this pressure to hold myself to the standard of whatever I thought I was supposed to be, or how I was supposed to be perceived,” he told Vulture.’
Here is the link to the article if you want more insight and where I got my information from.
We’re not even close guys, let’s take a look at Anthony Bourdain, who was a famous chef.
He was an American celebrity chef, author, travel documentarian, and television personality who starred in programs focusing on the exploration of international culture, cuisine, and the human condition. Also the worlds most talented, influential chefs in the whole entire world (ok maybe I should lower that down a bit more). How did he pass away? Suicide by hanging.
Based on a source, someone who worked closely with him, stated ‘during his travels, he was very exhausted and tired after filming the shoots for his ongoing series and after the shootings, he would go back to his room to isolate.’
Isolating, from experience, is not good for your mental health. I know that many people including me love to spend time alone sometimes and not be bothered for a whole entire month but that isn’t true. Isolation leads to loneliness and that is bad. We humans (I was going to say animals for a moment) are social creatures. And it doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert or both because we need to go out in the real world someday. Being stuck inside for months on end makes me feel trapped or gloomy. Hence why I always try to go out during the weekends with my family so that I don’t feel that feeling where “no one cares or wants me around” or “I feel really lonely”.
Another thing is that Bourdain was very hard working. However, that may be a good thing since he was so successful until his death but overworking is just not right, mentally.
This is the same thing I am trying to stay clear of when I study. I may study hard but I always have a little break and self-care moment so I don’t end up having a bloody nose or headaches (that has happened in the past before where I overworked). You can read more here and where I got the information on.
Even his mother, Gladys Bourdain, says he was in a “dark mood”.
Last on the list, Katherine Noel Valentine Brosnahan aka the famous fashion designer for her simplicity designer bags, Kate Spade.
She was an American fashion designer and businesswoman. She was the founder and former co-owner of the designer brand Kate Spade New York. How did she pass away? The same thing as Bourdain… Suicide by hanging.
In her suicide note to her beloved daughter, Frances Beatrix Spade, noting that “it was not her fault that she took her own life.” which is grief-stricken because her daughter is still just a child!
Another source, states that she was having relationship problems with her husband, Andy Spade. Apparently, they were living separately for the past 10 months (by the time of her death). ‘“It was over family problems … in her relationship,” a police source told The New York Post.’
Andy also made a statement saying that she also suffered from depression and anxiety for the past years.
The people may view them all as “successful, fortunate and happy”, in reality, they were all suffering from the same thing for many years. Depression. Yes, even role models you look up to can suffer the same thing.
I’m here to tell you that, I think it’s time to start looking at them as “normal human beings”(not in a bad way) and be supportive as you can by just messaging them through social media and asking “how are you?” or even send happy quotes. I’m not forcing you to do this but it does really make a difference to know that they have fans that truly care for them. They’re not like Barbie, who is flawless and glamorous. They have flaws too you know and not all of them are happy inside.
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