How To Deal With The Truth Of Being Called Ugly

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Many times I’ve been called “ugly” straight to my face. Other times, I’ve been called “pretty” or “lovely” the same way as I’ve been called ugly.

But what is the purpose of the word “ugly” to you? Why are people getting so upset over this word whenever it hits them in the face? Believe me, everyone has been called this nasty word once in their lifetime (unless you’re barbie than, I can’t really say much).

In this post, I’ll define this word to give you a more open-minded thought and I’ll tell you the exact reasons why you shouldn’t be triggered if you get called “ugly” on social media or face-to-face.

Note: If you’re easily offended or triggered by posts like these, I recommend you read my other posts and click off this.

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So grab your mug of coffee or tea and let’s get right into it!

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People have different definitions of this word. Let’s hear what Google’s definition is:

1. “unpleasant or repulsive, especially in appearance.”

2. “Involving or likely to involve violence or other unpleasantness.”

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But when you look at the synonyms, not only are the words describe as “unattractive”, “hideous” or “displeasing”. There are also words that say “plain”, “plain-featured” and “plain-looking”.

So are you telling me that whenever I get called “ugly”, what it really means is that I have a basic featured appearance or that my look doesn’t look special?

Here’s my definition of the word “ugly”:

Someone who acts and behaviours like a female dog.

And to me, that’s what describes me as “ugly”. If you know me personally, you know that I act like a self-entitled brat. But that’s who I am. It makes me feel confident and I’m not ashamed to admit it! (I am a Leo after all).

So, if someone calls you “ugly” to your face or behind your back, here’s probably the reason why you shouldn’t think of it as a negative perception.

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Plain-looking

You probably just don’t have any special features to your face. Don’t take it the wrong way, each society and country has an acceptable standard to what being “pretty” means. For example, in South Korea, ‘pretty’ considers very pale skin and no monolid eyes or in America, it could be being tan and having a large ass.

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You could just look decent and look like the typical everyday human being that you are and that’s ok!

Just know that people are either born lucky with a pretty face like those Instagram models… jokes! They either use face tune/photoshop or they went on their way to do surgery. But it’s their face so they can do whatever they want, no judgment there.

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A High-Class B*tch (in a good way)

You know you’re “ugly” when you have a classy b*tchy attitude. And having that b*tchy attitude is a good thing because you have standards but also you do things your way like a boss.

From Urban Dictionary, a good b*tch means that you’re honest, not misleading or fake. We all know that we hate those people that act fake and try to befriend you but end up betraying you. We just call those people b*tch in general.

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Jealousy

There are probably reasons behind why people say these nasty things. You should be open-minded to know that these people have reasons behind why they’re mad at you and call you “ugly”. Either due to their fears, insecurities or wanting things that they don’t have as a possession.

So when someone says mean stuff like the word “ugly” to you, they’re probably saying it out of jealousy and/or out of their own insecurity. Be grateful for that because you know that someone who says these negative things towards you, took their time to spend on you.

You’re Unique

We all weren’t born out as the perfect and flawless figure. I’m not only saying it as your appearance but I’m also saying that about your personality.

When you were a child, you learned and made mistakes as you grow older. But let’s get back to appearances. We all have a thing or two about what we don’t like about ourselves such as your nose, eyes, birthmarks, freckles, or moles etc.

I have a lot of insecurities (and so do most of you). Like the moles on my face, a scar on the tip of my nose and a birthmark on my right shoulder. When I was just in primary school, I was so self-conscious about these flaws that I did everything I could to get rid of these.

Today, I’m glad I didn’t because now I’m expressing these and that’s what makes me unique. I’m beautiful just the way I am and if you’re unhappy with your features, then there’s always the option of surgery or going to therapy. You do what you do with your body. There’s always a cheaper route to learning about how to learn to love yourself such as reading books or watching videos.

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Conclusion

Now strike up that confidence and if someone says that you’re ugly, reply back with a “thanks” and move on with your day knowing that they are insecure about themselves but also know that they took the time for YOU to say it.

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