Heres What No One Tells You About Social Media Comparison
The other day, I was staying awake at midnight, with all these thoughts coming through my head thinking about my life and my schoolmates from elementary and high school.
Let's say, I stayed up late looking through Instagram. A little bit of "stalking" people's post of their "perfect" life and how much I felt that my life wasn't good enough compared to their life.
With that said, I kept thinking about social media comparison and what effect is having on others (including yourself).
But I want to tell you that you don't have to feel that way. Here's what no one tells you about social media comparison.
So grab your mug of coffee or tea and let's get right into it!
Do you know what social media comparison feels like? It's a horrible feeling and I'm pretty sure you felt the same way when they go on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter & Tumblr.
Seeing how much their co-workers, friends, and ex-classmates are going about in their life, posting things like showing off their vacation, new job, and living life etc.
It's sad but then I went on Google and searched up "social media & self-esteem", looking for advice on how to overcome this. I learned so much reading through those posts and I'm glad to say that not everything is what it's seemed in their photos.
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- How to Overcome Social Anxiety
One post I've read was Why Social Media Is Ruining Your Self-Esteem—and How to Stop It by Jamie Friedlander.
Her post was very relatable to me and informational. I'm not sure if I'm a bad friend but sometimes I too felt jealous sometimes when my friends have good news in her life. I'm happy for her but deep down, I'm just full of envy at how her life is going and whatnot.
"It’s a natural human instinct to judge our progress or success in life by seeing how we match up against others—what psychologist Leon Festinger called “social comparison theory” in the 1950s."
And that was right.
FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
I did a post the other day about how to overcome judgment from others and it just seems like human nature to me. We can't be helped to try to compare ourselves to someone else unless we learn how to stay true to ourselves.
"Today’s teenagers call this FOMO, or “fear of missing out.”"
As still considered a teenager/young adult, I too felt that way. About others getting their license at 18 while I'm here still having my learners permit. About other people near my age socialising in real life and hanging out with their friends while I'm here at home, alone, voice calling my friends and having fewer friends than they have.
It's very hard to contemplate the feeling that I'm missing out on things that "normal" teenagers are doing nowadays.
Then there is one where they have part-time jobs yet here I am, unemployed because of my social anxiety and the fact that it's really hard to find jobs nowadays. I did have work experience back then but I felt that I want to be my own leader and not get bossed around.
I felt better when others are on the same page as me but it just goes away for a few seconds until I felt my self-esteem lower again. And all of these revolves around YouTube & Instagram for me.
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There are also times where I felt my self-esteem lower comparing my own blog (YES MY BLOG) against other bloggers out there with high traffic views. The world out there feels like a competition and it feels like I've lost. But my blog here is different from others.
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I want to share my views and opinions, I want to help those and myself on how to become someone better (hence why I chose the niche Lifestyle & Mental Wellness).
I may be interested in business and entrepreneur stuff like how to grow your blog etc. but I felt like that topic is for those who are knowledgeable about these types of things (I'm not haHAA).
The only thing is, it's never too late to find the real you.
The thing is, behind those social media photos is not what it actually is behind the scenes. Along the lines of that, your life is just not "there" yet. We're just at the beginning of starting somewhere to get to that destination.
What are your opinions on social media comparison and how do you deal with it?
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